A Relationship Intention focuses on your experiences with other people; how you collaborate and interact.
The keys to setting a Relationship Intention that manifests is knowing that...
You cannot intend for other people.
You cannot control How or When things manifest.
Life would be so much easier if we could decide how everyone else feels. "My kids are grateful during the holidays," "My boss sees my value," "I am the love of my partner's life," etc. If only we could make everyone around us happy, loving and cooperative! You cannot intend for other people but you can get very clear about what you desire. Focusing on yourself will become much more empowering and magnetic.
Timing is also an issue on this non-linear path. 'Needing your boss to give you a raise by September so that you can afford your wedding' and/or 'needing your daughter to be nicer to you ASAP because life is miserable' gives your power away. Needing something from someone else by a certain time is the best way to fall out of alignment with the vibration of your desires. On this journey you will learn that nothing and no one can affect your happiness when you start to live life intentionally. You will feel unconditionally happy and timing won't even be an issue. You will see that things always work out even better than expected.
There are two types of Relationship Intentions: Personal + Professional.
1. Your Personal Life
> If you are not currently in a relationship, create a Relationship Intention based solely on how YOU desire to feel.
Old List: They have brown hair and green eyes, they do xyz for a living, they have a house on the beach, we have a lot of fun together, etc.
New Intention: I am wildly attracted to my partner, I feel inspired by my partner's creativity, I feel relaxed in their space, I have so much fun with them, etc.
Throw that old list away. Manifesting from a list of characteristics does not work. You WILL attract that person, all the boxes will be checked, yet somehow you will not feel lasting happiness. You may even think that there is something wrong with you for not being happy with the brown hair, green-eyed person in the house on the beach. There is nothing wrong with you, you just manifested a list of traits instead of how you desire to feel. Congratulations on being an epic manifestor! Now let's fine-tune the process.
Your new Relationship Intention will focus on how you desire to FEEL and WHY you desire those things. Get the step-by-step details here, 5 Steps to Setting Intentions that Manifest
Sharing this Intention
If you trust the person you are dating and feel comfortable sharing this intention with them, it can greatly deepen your connection. The new person in your life will gain greater insight as to WHY you enjoy certain things and what you desire.
On that note: A Sub Intention can be helpful for certain topics like physical intimacy. Can you imagine getting incredibly clear about what you sexually desire and being able to share that with a new partner? Talk about conscious dating!
> If you are currently in a relationship and you wish things were a little better, follow the steps above to create a Relationship Intention based solely on how YOU desire to feel and not on what you hope your current partner might agree to.
If your partner is on-board, have them do their own Relationship Intention. Vulnerably share why each component is important to you and see where you align - this will give you the material to create your Joint Relationship intention.
A Joint Relationship Intention still uses the first person, I, because as you each read it, you're tuning into how YOU feel. You know that while reading and embodying it, you both desire the same things. If there is anything you don't agree on, put that on the Dump List to see if it is a deal-breaker or if counseling would help. Sometimes just sharing why something is important to you can help your partner warm to it. You may not agree on how you want it to manifest but WHY you each want something could be very similar.
Example: They may want to go out to dinner once a week and you may want to cook together at home more often, the root of both these desires is quality time to connect.
Sharing this Intention
Just like in dating, if you feel safe sharing your Relationship Intention with your partner - go for it! It could open up new pathways for connection and deepen your understanding of each other. If you do not feel safe sharing this information right now, continue to align with it daily and remove any resistance to receiving all that you desire..
Make your Joint Relationship Intention accessible (hang it on a wall, type it in a shared drive, etc.) and schedule time to reconnect with it individually and together. Intentions and people evolve, both need lots of love. Come back to it in an argument and realign instead of pointing fingers.
Follow the steps in The FREE Manifesting with the Moon Guide and schedule a Private Session with me for help. I have grown the most with support and I'm here to pass it on to you. This blog is intended to be an overview and introduction to a very active, daily practice.
2. Your Professional Career
> If you are your own boss and/or are in charge of hiring a team, check this out.
Create an intention that describes how YOU feel, based on your values and priorities. When interviewing, look for alignment with this intention in the people you meet. Ask open-ended questions to get a qualitative understanding of each person. Before officially hiring a new colleague, share your intention and ask if they align with your desires, let them know that this is the place you will be navigating everything from.
If you already have a team, share your intention with the group (or individual contractors) and ask if they are capable of aligning with it. You may find that some misalignments are deal-breakers and that others can be navigated when both parties understand why something is or isn't important. You may not agree on the surface action but your core values are the same, decide how aligned you need your team to be.
Sharing this Intention
Make the intention easily accessible to everyone and schedule regular sessions to align with it, use it's language to navigate any miscommunications or difficulty. Having a clearly defined Work Relationship Intention (a.k.a. Work Intention, Project Intention, Company Intention, etc.) makes it less personal to navigate disagreements.
> If you work solo, read this.
Follow the same process as if you were hiring a team but use it to share your boundaries with and attract your ideal clients.
Sharing this Intention
Get clear on how you like doing business, establish your policies and boundaries.
Example: My studio hours and Menstrual Disclaimer are very clear on my website. New, custom clients sign an agreement to ensure that we have the same expectations. These boundaries have gotten clearer over the years as I got more intentional about running my business. I highly recommend doing a separate Financial Intention to release any fear or scarcity around doing things exactly the way you desire.
> If you are an employee and feel a little helpless, this is for you.
This approach is similar to the Personal Relationship Intentions above but you are creating an intention for your dream job instead of dating! You may start to see your current job shifting to match your new vibration - or - you may attract a better opportunity.
Frustration: My colleagues glamorize working 80-hour weeks; I know that I do great work and I don't want to feel bad for not working late and stressing out. I'm literally scheduled in 3 meetings at once, multiple times a week!
Part of an Intention: I feel proud prioritizing the things that are important to me. I am empowered to efficiently use my time. I am excited to pour my passion into great projects and feel valued by my team.
New Experience: I woke up today needing some down time but knew that my calendar was packed with meetings. When I logged in, I saw that all of my meetings were canceled or moved, allowing me the rest I needed! I didn't have to do anything or complain to anyone, I simply continued to align with my intention and clear away limiting beliefs
Sharing this Intention
If you trust your boss and feel comfortable sharing this intention with them, it can greatly deepen your success. They will gain greater insight as to WHY you enjoy certain things and what you desire. A great boss will maximize your skills.
On that note: A Sub Intention can be helpful for certain topics like Meetings. Your overall Work Intention may be crystal clear and you feel aligned with it most days, but meetings with Phil really push your buttons! Create a separate intention for how YOU desire to navigate or decrease these experiences.
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